Dating terms you might not have heard of and what they mean
Just when we all thought we had got our heads around 'Sexting' along comes a raft of new dating terms to confuse and bamboozle us in our quest for love. Communication is key when you are courting and the language of love has just got a whole lot more complicated with a host of new-fangled relationship jargon to fathom out.
As more people head on over to the internet and are swiping away on apps while waiting for the bus it's more important than ever to be on the ball with the latest trends.
To guide you through the maze of terminology here's our quick and simple guide to what they all mean.
This term is not exactly new it's been around since before the advent of online dating. But what does it actually mean? Ghosting is when somebody that you have been dating suddenly and for no reason stops making contact with you. The person will give no signs of why they are no longer interested but it's probably that they are too afraid to tell you that they don't want things to go any further with the relationship.
This is similar to the ghosting scenario but this version is a more longer lasting process. The slow fade as it suggests is when somebody you are seeing and chatting to gradually reduces contact and cuts you off, making less and less effort to keep in touch with you.
This term is most commonly used to describe photos that are posted on social media with the sole intention of creating attention from the opposite sex. For example somebody might post a photo of a drink by the swimming pool and the caption "thirsty work this holidaying" but the photo is zoomed in more on their half naked body. This would be a classic thirst trap.
Most people will know somebody in their inner circle that does this. During the winter months singles that are normally happy will seek out a committed relationship. The cold weather and prolonged indoor activity causes singles to become lonely and desperate to be cuffed.
This abbreviation DTR (Define The Relationship) is when a couple decide it's time to have 'The Chat' a frank discussion about where their relationship is heading.
This term also can be called bread-crumbing which means that the person you have been dating stops agreeing to see you in person but will continue to message you over social media. These people are keeping you on the side line and benching you while they play the field. You need to be wary of this person who keeps you hanging on in this way.
Here comes the return of the ghoster remember them well their reappearance on the scene is called haunting. This person will not contact you directly but will like the things you do and follow you on social media.
This term is often confused with benching but it turns out this is a much more positive term. Tuners are people that are vague and try to avoid being upfront about their feelings towards you despite the fact that they are romantically interested in you.
Catch and release
Some dates just love the thrill of the chase and this is a common tactic employed by these type of people. As soon as a potential date has taken the bait and gets reeled in, the person will get bored and end the relationship to go looking for another date to chase.
We might have heard this term being used but not really thought about it in detail. Talking is when somebody says that they are 'talking' to a guy or girl, it usually means that they are in fact dating albeit on a casual basis of course.
Imagine being in a relationship that's going very well only to be dumped by your partner for no apparent reason. A lemming can do this if they see a friend coming out of a relationship and thus copies them.
To 'ship' a couple is when your friends approve of your relationship.
You don't have a proper legit relationship until you have announced it to the world via Facebook. Changing your status on the platform means you have become Facebook Official and for some it's the pinnacle of online dating to have made their relationship FBO.
Ever feel like you're putting a lot of time and effort into a relationship and getting nothing back in return? well guess what you are being Firedoored. The name alludes to the fact that a firedoor can only be accessed from one side.
In relationship terms, this relates to a scenario where, for example, someone never texts you back, yet you're more than willing to drop everything and go to them the moment they call.
Submarining is a variant of ghosting, when somebody you're talking to or dating suddenly cuts all ties and communication with you. Well, submarining is like ghosting, only the person who ghosted you ends up cropping back up again weeks, months or even years after they cut you off.
Like a submarine which has been underwater for months, they'll resurface back into your life without warning. After months at sea, the shameless dater will just try to pick up exactly where you both left off - before they went AWOL.
If you have ever started dating someone who has lavished on the attention and then things have quickly soured? Chances are you could have been a victim of "love bombing." Love bombing is a seductive tactic, where a manipulative person tries to control another individual with "Love bombs", from day one.
Cushioning is essentially the practice of making sure that you have some insurance on the side in case your relationship goes sour.
So cushioning cheats might be stringing someone else along for months whilst in a relationship, just to make sure that there's something - or someone - to cushion the blow if they get dumped.
Receiving sporadic but suggestive text messages (i.e leaving a trail of breadcrumbs') could be a sign that you're getting breadcrumbed.
The texter may be attempting to boost their ego by keeping you interested with the minimum amount of effort possible.
In serious cases, the person sending the suggestive texts may pop up every few months, only to flit back out of your life after. They trick users into believing there's a chance of a relationship but sadly, the messages don't actually result in a romantic date.
Stashing appears at the stage during a relationship when you're pretty much "official" until you suddenly realise that you are yet to meet a single person in their life and they haven't once shared anything that remotely suggests you're an item. Basically the reason for all this secrecy on their part is that you're probably not the only person they're dating.
They've got someone else - or worst case scenario, several others - on the go and as a result they're quite literally stashing you away.