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Online dating the information you need to know


Still single? Still looking for that perfect date? Well worry no more as we have some amazing information that's just been published in the British Medical Journal's publication Evidence Based Medicine.

Researches have been delving into the mysterious world of online dating profiles to come up with the secret ingredients to the top performing profiles. There's 6 main parts to a profile and for each one we break it down to what the research boffins have discovered.

The perfect profile name

For getting the most attention online it's best to stay away from names such as "XXX". Most things are categorised alphabetically and that's the same for search engines. If your name is nearer the top of the alphabet it will do better in on the web. Dating names need to make you sound "Hot" especially if you're going for the men. It's no use being subtle they just won't be interested. The research suggests that respond to words such as "Blondie" and "Cutie" and are not so keen on words such as "Little" or "Bugg."

Your profile picture

The main point to note here is that it needs to be attractive. Now you may be saying that you can't do anything to make yourself more attractive but there are some tips that can help you to appear your best and gain attention. The first thing to do is to smile and be happy like you mean it. People can tell a fake smile as a genuine smile crinkles up your eyes and will make you look more likeable.

Another tip photographers have is to get the subject to tilt their head slightly as this can also make you look more appealing. Colour is also another factor that can give you an edge on your pictures. Women look great in red and men look their best in blue. By using these in combination you can significantly increase the number of people wanting to get in touch with you.

A range of various style photos

As well as the profile photo you need to have a range of different style shots such as a smart look, casual look, performing a hobby and a holiday shot. Try to include a full body picture and that it's just you in the shot so people can't get confused as to who owns the profile.

You could throw in the odd group photo with you in the centre to show that you are good company and touching is good but only as far as a hand on the upper arm. The researchers have also concluded that it is the person that's doing the touching that is seen as better than the person that's being touched.

The killer headline - dare to be different

Try to keep this short and sweet and keep away from headlines that are either typical (overused and boring) or slightly cheesy. Biggest offenders include those where the author's lack of imagination or energy just scream out "I can't be bothered"

Here's 5 of the worst we have come across...

Will Fill This In Later...
Not Sure What To Say
I Am Seeking For True Love. Could That Be You?
Looking For Ms. Right
I Have A Few Trust Issues

Here's 5 that we liked...

Not Perfect, But My Dog Thinks I'm Awesome
In My Mind, I Sing Just Like Sinatra
Willing To Lie About How We Met
Creating A New Ending
Wears Socks That Match!

Your dating profile bio

"During the week I jetset around the world being photographed for the covers of top magazines and at the weekends I save the planet from aliens and party with the elite."

Hmmm maybe not the person to ask more about. We are quite good at uncovering the liars so it's best to stick to the truth even if it is not quite as exciting. This is a bio not a CV so don't fall into the trap of listing all your qualifications and achievements you need to sound likeable.

The scientists have discovered some very sexist results such as men like women who take part in yoga and aerobics and are turned off by women playing rugby and bodybuilding.

Women are on the lookout for men that display bravery and courage over acts of kindness and charity.

Your profile should also try not to be to "me, me, me" if you want more responses. A rule of thumb is that 70% of your bio should be about you and the rest is describing the kind of person that you would like to meet.

The art of messaging

So you have found somebody that you like the look of and it's time to start a message. The key is not to make it generic or bland. Some of the mistakes people make is to write an essay - all you need to do is to write a quick line which could be something about their photo or something they have written on their profile or ask a question.

Remember that first impressions really count. If you want to hit a home run with your first email you should avoid these words in an opening message ur, r, u, ya, cant, hit, realy, luv, and wat. Surprisingly though ha ha and lol were considered ok to use.

Research has shown that starting off a message with the words "Hello" or "Hi" come across as run of the mill and perhaps a bit boring so using slang or an unusual greeting may be the way to go. You could always spice it up a bit with a foreign greeting like "Bonjour" but make sure that you know what it means so you don't come a cropper.

So craft a grammatically correct, unusual and not overly confident first message and you should be in good stead to receive a reply.











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